By Raheem Hameed.
Father’s Day is a worldwide event with the intention of honouring fathers and celebrating fatherhood. Most countries including Nigeria fixed June 16 of every year for this celebration.
Tracing the historical events of this day, Christians used to celebrate Saint Joseph, the father of Jesus on this day. Later, the Spanish and Portuguese imported this celebration into America which was by then celebrated on March 19. The celebration of this day was known with Christians especially the Catholics until 20th century when it was considered as civic celebration to complement Mother’s Day.
Despite the fact that this day originated from Christianity, there is still a lot to learn by humanities. This is because no man on earth is without a father except Jesus Christ. The efforts a father undergo in impregnating a woman cannot be trashed by merely naming it for enjoyment alone. As a result, it is essential to look into the importance of taking care of one’s parents in days like this.
The Position of Parents in Islam
Allah placed great emphasis in taking care of our parents. When He was given this order in the glorious Qura’n, He placed it alongside with obedience to Him;
“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small’.”(Quran 17 verses 23-24).
For a child to be good to his parents, the parents must imbue religious tenets in the child as that will make such a child responsible. Reasoning with how Luqman trained his child, he firstly imbibed religious tenets in his child then followed it with moral values which includes doing good to parents. Allah says:
“And when Luqman said to his son while he was instructing him, ‘O my son, do not associate [anything] with Allah. Indeed, association [with Him] is great injustice.’ And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.” (Quran 17 verses 13-14).
The two chapters cited above showed that any muslim who is not good to his parents has denied the injunction of Allah after having faith in Him.
Do good to your fathers
Everyday is Father’s Day nay, Parent’s Day in Islam, there is no need for singling out a day in the whole year.
A muslim wishing his child to do good to him when he grows, must do good to his father. This is in line with the order of Prophet Muhammad:
“Do good to your fathers so that your children will do good to you”
This good deeds should also extend to one’s father’s friend. In another hadith, Prophet Muhammad said:
“The best act of righteousness is that a man should maintain good relations with his father’s loved ones.” (Muslim)
This goodness even extends to the time that they are no more living on earth. Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) said:
“Verily, Allah the Exalted will raise the status of his righteous servants in Paradise and they will say: O Lord, what is this? Allah will say: This is due to your child seeking forgiveness for you.” (Ahmad)
We have to know that most parents do hurt their children either knowingly or unknowingly, this must not debar us from doing good to them everytime.
Conclusively, we don’t need to single out a day to celebrate and honour our parents, this should be everytime because it is through them that Allah destined we see the light of this world.
Oh God, bless all the living parents and forgive those who have passed away